Ever wondered about the best sexual positions in pregnancy or even whether it’s okay to go at it at all? Find out the answers to your seven biggest concerns
We asked our awesome Jennis Pregnancy community for all your pressing questions. Here’s what you wanted to know about sex in pregnancy – answered!
1. Is sex in pregnancy safe?
As long as your doctor or midwife hasn’t told you to avoid sex, then yes, absolutely! Sex in pregnancy won’t hurt you, your baby or your partner. Your baby is protected from the action by amniotic fluid, the mucus plug and your uterus muscles, and, nope, they can’t ‘hear’ anything happening either. So go for it!
2. What happens to your libido in pregnancy?
Just as everyone’s different, so pregnancy can affect your sex drive in different ways. For many women, the first trimester puts a dampener on their sex drive. With morning sickness, bloating and exhaustion to get to grips with, sex can definitely be the last thing on your mind.
In the second trimester, you may find yourself feeling very different indeed thanks to an increase in the hormone oestrogen. This increases blood flow to the vagina and delivers extra lubrication too, heightening sexual desire and arousal. For some women, this can mean intense orgasms during pregnancy. Find out more about of the other weird and wonderful things that can happen in pregnancy.
In the third trimester, some women want to continue having sex, while others just find it too challenging and uncomfortable.
If you go off sex throughout your pregnancy, that’s fine, too. Just keep talking to your partner so they understand what’s going on.
3. Which are the best sexual positions in pregnancy?
In general, any position that feels comfortable, which also gives you satisfaction. In the first trimester, you’ll still be able to use the same sexual positions as pre-pregnancy, but as your bump grows, comfort gets trickier to tick off.
A study found that ‘woman-on-top’ positions, like cowgirl, and those that support your bump scored the highest satisfaction rating among pregnant women. For a pose with extra bump support in late pregnancy, try lying on your side with a pillow between your knees, and your partner snuggled behind you.
4. Who shouldn’t have sex in pregnancy?
There are several reasons your doctor or midwife may advise you against having sex. For example, if you’ve experienced heavy bleeding in your pregnancy or have a low-lying placenta, which can increase your risk of bleeding, you’ll be told to avoid it.
Sex may also be off the cards if your waters have broken, you’ve a history of premature labour or you’re expecting twins (or more!)
5. So, it’s fine to have orgasms in pregnancy, right?
Yes, if your pregnancy is normal and healthy, then bring on the orgasms. As many as you want! Just bear in mind that later in pregnancy, an orgasm can trigger Braxton Hicks, or practice contractions. They’re nothing to worry about, but they might not feel very comfortable. Try relaxation techniques to help them pass.
6. What if my partner goes off sex while I’m pregnant?
This is really normal, too. For some men, the thought of becoming a dad can lower their libido for a short while, and they may also be worried about hurting you or the baby. Just make sure you keep talking, and things will eventually get back to normal.
7. Can sex make you go into labour?
For most of your pregnancy, having sex and orgasms doesn’t affect when you go into labour.
However, in your final few weeks, sex can trigger Braxton Hicks. According to scientists, having sex in late pregnancy can speed up the onset of labour, and prevent your pregnancy going overdue. It also reported that sperm contains natural hormone-like substances called prostaglandins that can help ripen your cervix!!